Valentine’s Day is fast approaching, and with it, the all-too-familiar pressure to have a special someone by your side. For many high school students, the arrival of Cupid’s arrow seems to have missed them this year, leaving a feeling of longing and shame. However, while society’s obsession with romantic relationships can make it seem like not having a Valentine is a source of embarrassment, there’s a refreshing way to look at this time of year.

Rather than feeling down or wallowing in a sense of rejection, why not take the leap and create a new opportunity for friendship—or even a relationship? Now, we’re not advocating for anything creepy or over-the-top, like showing up unannounced at someone’s house with a dozen roses in hand. That’s not how healthy connections are made. Instead, consider a simple, respectful gesture, like buying a bouquet of flowers and asking someone if they’d like to hang out—nothing too fancy, just a chance to get to know each other in a relaxed setting.

Taking the first step into a new connection can be intimidating, but it’s one of the most meaningful ways to grow as a person. We often place so much value on finding the “perfect” Valentine, but the truth is, making any new friend or building a connection can be just as fulfilling. After all, Valentine’s Day isn’t solely about romance; it’s a celebration of love in all forms—whether it’s the love of friends, family, or yourself.

But what if the person you ask out doesn’t feel the same way? Rejection is a natural part of life, and though it can sting, it’s essential to understand that it doesn’t define your worth. Rejection therapy—an intentional practice where you expose yourself to rejection to desensitize the fear—can be incredibly useful. Each “no” is simply a stepping stone to growing more resilient and learning how to cope with life’s inevitable setbacks. Rejection doesn’t mean you’re not good enough—it just means that you’re one step closer to finding someone who appreciates you for exactly who you are.

And here’s a crucial point: before venturing into the world of romance, it’s important to feel comfortable in your own skin. Self-love is the foundation of any healthy relationship, and it’s essential to remember that your worth isn’t dependent on someone else’s affection. Spend time with your friends, focus on your passions, and be proud of who you are, Valentine or not. The more you value yourself, the easier it will be to bring the right people into your life.

There’s an old saying that one of the greatest human tragedy is never knowing how much you are truly loved, simply because no one ever says it. In our busy lives, we sometimes forget to express affection to the people who matter most. But in this moment, let me remind you: you are loved. You are worthy. You are important.

So, for those of you who feel that Cupid’s arrows have passed you by this year—take heart. There is a love out there waiting for you in all forms. Whether it’s a friend, a family member, or a future significant other, there’s no shortage of love in the world, and sometimes, the first step toward it is simply reaching out, in the spirit of kindness and courage.

To everyone who feels left out this Valentine’s Day, remember: you are not alone. Yours truly sends all of her love to those Cupid had missed.

Happy Valentine’s Day. Keep the love alive, in all the ways that matter.