Friends. How little the word means if you’re not a good person. You can only be yourself and hope to find just people to be in your life. Kind, honest, caring, and loyal people. But what should loyal actually mean?
You spend your whole life pining for a good friendship/relationship or to keep it; that one friend or person that you love so much, they’re the only person that understands you. You make goals. Things like summer bucket list, hot girl summer, game night, going out to eat, making the sports team together, shopping, or even just watching a new show together while eating a candy salad. This friendship could last a few months, years, or decades. But once it’s over, what happens?
One mistake could determine the rest of your future in a relationship or friendship. And this is where we come across the “blame game.” You didn’t care about me enough or you should have been there for me or you knew I didn’t like them and you still hung out with them! But in reality, true reality, these sayings are total lies. A person can have miles of love for you and make mistakes or hurt you. No one is perfect, there is simply no possible way to know every time what your words or actions will have an impact on someone. And then, you knew I didn’t like them and you still hung out with them thing, is the biggest lie of them all. Of course, it is not a lie to the person who said it, but the other person has friends too. Sure, there are times where people are coming from a valid place, but you can’t control other people. Read that again. You need to hear it.
Loyalty is defined as “a faithfulness that is steadfast in the face of any temptation to renounce, desert, or betray.”
A definition that seems harmless, but some people read into that too much. Being faithful can mean there are hiccups. There is going to be temptation to fail another, yell, snitch, or anything that would be described as betrayal. And yes, the temptation sometimes does become real. But loyalty shouldn’t be a cage that you can’t break free of. It should feel like a warm bed and a cold pillow to embrace you and keep you safe. Calm can be deadly, however, it is how you deal with the bad that gets you to the good.

Never hold yourself back because you don’t want to renounce, desert, or betray someone. You are your own person. If your partner or friend can’t deal with your messy or situations, then they are not the person for you.
Loyalty is the action of being welcoming and there for another human being, but you have to be there for yourself as well.